I'll start with the shoulds. A wise woman once presented this idea to me; I can't claim it as an original thought. But I am making it mine. Imagine if we all eliminated the word "should" from our vocabulary. Both in our words and in our thoughts Imagine if every moment was a moment of choice. "Should" carries with it an obligation or duty. Every "should" is in someone else's voice. If you listen you can hear your parents, your teachers, your church, your society behind all those shoulds. Imagine if you listened to your own voice. Just a little. A voice that declares "I want" and "I choose."
It's a small shift, but it changes everything. It's not easy- to be quite honest, it can be very difficult to release all those voices whispering "should." They have been with us our whole lives.
I am choosing to live a life of choice rather than duty. My authentic voice.
Try it for a day. Let me know how it goes.